The "world we experience" and "the way we feel" is largely dependent upon what we decide to focus on.
Sometimes it's helpful to realize how this happens, because once you become aware of it, you can decide what reality you want to live in!
Anxious people tend to focus on things that might go wrong. Their brain creates a reality where things go wrong all the time. (And so, they focus on preventing disasters.)
Chronically happy people focus on things going well. Their brain creates a reality where everything feels great. (And so, they aren't as motivated to achieve anything. But they have less stress.)
High-achieving people focus on what they want to get done. Their brain creates a reality where life is just a series of goals that need to be reached. (And so they become very successful in life.)
Being able to imagine each of these realities lets you realize that the way you feel is largely dependent upon what you focus on.
If you want to be independent and self-sufficient, playing a lot of video games would be a vice, because video games prevent you from living out your values. Working hard at your job, however, is a value you can use to reach your goal.
Another example is if you want to be physically fit, then eating junk food or drinking alcohol would be vices, because they are bad for your health. Going for a run in nature every day, however, is a value that would improve your health.
By recognizing values and vices, you automatically write half your life's story. This lets you focus your free mental energy on whatever you want!
Let's just step back for a second and look at the big picture.
It's probably a good idea to have a good outline for the next chapter before you write it. Maybe jot down some ideas about why that next chapter will be better than the last one.
I don't know if this really make a lot of sense to anybody else but me. But sometimes just viewing the past as "previous chapters" and viewing the future as "unwritten" makes me feel better.
Writing new chapters in your life story is a healthy way to keep moving through difficult times.
We're a group of young adults, spread across the world, who want to come together to figure out how to make life better.
We acknowledge that our techniques in the past are no longer working for us, and we need to reinvent how we are living.
Of course we are all quitting video games together. But after that - where will our story take us?